On Being Judgmental

Years ago, I attended a bible class with other adults my age, and I remember fondly Sherrie and her husband. He asked her, “Why do you have to talk so much?” And she laughed and said, “Because there are some things that I just HAVE to say.” Then all the guys laughed and agreed that yes, their wives have a lot of things that they have to say. It’s hard for some of us not to share and overshare and to remember that just because we think it, it doesn’t have to be expressed.

Which brings me to judgment of others — there is just something that I have to say about that. It is with a great deal of interest to me that the Methodists recently voted that LGBT persons will not be allowed to hold office within the church. Who made that rule? I’ll betcha it wasn’t a gay or lesbian person.

When I worked for a local university, we were allowed to take college classes at no expense, a really great benefit of that job. In my biology class, we did research papers on such things as stem cells, what nicotine addiction does to your body, and things of that nature. In my reading, I stumbled upon a scientific study about the brains of homosexuals and heterosexuals. It turns out that there are specific genetic markers on chromosomal strands of DNA which will denote whether someone is heterosexual or homosexual. Those strands of DNA are formed in vitro; thus, people are born either with heterosexual strands of DNA or with homosexual strands of DNA. I don’t think that was even an issue when our bible was written. There will be a ton of folks who cry blasphemy if we don’t agree that homosexuality is an abomination in God’s eyes. But stop right there! Did Jesus say that? Who said that? As far as I know, Jesus clearly said, “Love one another,” and to love each other as we love ourselves.

Let’s say for a moment that a person is born homosexual instead of heterosexual. As a heterosexual woman, I’m gonna be darned mad if someone tells me I should love another woman instead of another man, and the same thing applies if I was born a homosexual woman, considering the fact that then my chromosomes on my strands of DNA would make me homosexual. Imagine what happens when society tells me I can’t love whom I love, and that I should really love the other side. I just wouldn’t be wired that way.

Don’t we just judge people to the limits because of their choice in whom they love? Jesus didn’t tell us that we should only love heterosexuals – he said love one another, and treat others as you would have them treat you. He’s probably a really modern kinda guy in this day and age when he walks with us, but I don’t think he’s going to deter on his request that we love one another and leave judgment up to his Father.

I always wondered what happens when judgment day comes. In my mind, there we are at the gates of heaven, surrounded by all these fluffy white clouds, and God is seated at one of those long conference tables across from us, and he is taking a long look at our lives, like a child’s vision of Santa reading off his good or bad list. He’ll deduct points for every bad thing we did, and give us credit for the good things, and let’s hope the good things outweigh the bad, and we will get admitted. I know a lot of folks who are going to be marked way down for being judgmental of others according to their own personal beliefs and inability to love one another.

I also believe in the goodness of humans. If we know of a child who is hungry and in desperate need of food, we will feed that child. As Christians, we will do what we can to help that child get food, because that’s what we do. But we will not say to that child’s face, “Are you gay or lesbian? If so, you can’t have food.” And the same goes with our faith. Please stop judging others, and let our Father do that. Jesus did not offer assistance to a prostitute because of an aversion to how she freely gave away sex. He offered assistance to her because he loved another human being enough to want to help her. Let’s be more like that–a little less judgmental of others because their lifestyle is different than ours.